Question about tipping

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Posted by Jocelyn1977

There are just so many opinions out there...and tipping 'cheat sheets' that contradict one another! I think after all the said and done - and after all the advise I have gotten here and read online - this is what we plan to do....

$4pp to the maitre d' (Fox Hollow suggests $3-5 pp)
$150 to the bridal attendant
20% of the total bill to the makeup artist
My usual 20% to my hairdresser (I'm going to her morning of)
$150 each to the DJ and the MC (which works out to around 15% of the bill)
Only $100-150 to our photographer. It doesn't work out to 20%, but he is the sole owner of his business and isn't bringing an assistant, so the entire payment is going to him.
With regards to our officiant - who is a reverend at a church in Garden City...we are already paying $600 for her services. I'm still a bit confused on what is expected. Do you really 'tip' a reverend? Is that expected - or, god forbid, offensive? We may just donate another $100 to a charity she likes. I think I'm going to call the church office and get an opinion and find out whats customary.

Thats about $1250 in tips! Geesh.

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Thanks for sharing! This sounds reasonable.

I just sent this email to the church main office. So tacky, but I want a straight answer!

Good morning!

This is Jocelyn - me and my fiance are having Reverend Sullivan officiate our wedding ceremony on Feb 22 (and we are so happy she was able to officiate for us)!

I have a question - and, please forgive me if it sounds silly, or tactless. We have just heard so many conflicting answers from friends and family.....

Tony and I would like to present the Reverend with a little something extra, aside from the church fee, to say thank you. Either an added monetary gratuity (if she would accept it), a donation to her favorite charity, a gift certificate to a favorite place, etc..
Could someone over at GCCC provide us some guidance - on what is customary - and/or what Reverend Sullivan would appreciate most?

Thank you so much for your time!
Best
Jocelyn (and Tony )

I'll let you know the response - in case anyone else is confused about officiant gratuities...