Sounds like you're focused mostly on Suffolk County - I know Caffe on the Green - a historical landmark - has a room just your size. But they're located in bayside www.cotg.com (i think)
What about the upstairs room at Harbor Hills in PJ? When my company was smaller, we used to have our holiday party there (w/40-50 pp).
Have you tried the 3 Village Inn in Stony Brook?
Along the idea of restaurants, did you ever eat at the Old Inlet Inn in Bellport? Really great place and I think they do parties upstairs. The food is delicious and it is in a sort of an old house so it's cozy... just an idea.
It is quite possible that you feel that they are imposing a situation on you that you are not ready to handle, but that is proably b/c they didn't handle it correctly. had they come to you and spoken about it correctly and in a non-assuming manner, I am sure you would not be feeling the way you are.
I really hope this works out for you. It seems that this situation may put up a wall between you and your future in-laws for all the wrong reasons. Communication is a skill that not many people understand or have.
there is also a georgusresturant in hampton bays idon't know if you arelooking for something thatfar eas. it's call the Indian cove myfuture hubbys work has their xmas party there year. beautiful setting it's right on the water. Good luck
I confronted my mother-in-law to be...confronted my fiance and said "small" or nothing....after much bickering and arguing...we're having a fairly small brunch at the Three Village Inn..they do almost everything for you....honestly if they didn't...I'd just elope...if you all let this five hour event make you sick...you won't have the strength to survive the first battle over whose house you are going to spend the holidays at.....Take your vitamins......and good luck...JessicaE
