Guest List Drama
Still 9 months out from the wedding, but trying to settle the guest list b/c we are sending out digital STD's through email. My dad is from Sicily and most of my mom's family lives in Florida, so I have over 70 people on my 'A' list that are out-of-country/state!
FH and I have 246 on our A list so far - we want to send out 220 invites, hoping for no more than 175 at the wedding due to budget and venue size. My concern is that we can't send out invites to other people on our 'B' list (that are friends that we'd really like to come) because we already have so many relatives that we are unsure about on the A list.
I spoke to my dad about the relatives from Italy and he gets annoyed every time I bring it up. I basically want him to get a verbal in advance from the Italian relatives that are planning on coming. I'd like to send my invites out at least 3 months before the wedding so that I'll have time to send to B-listers. He thinks it's ridiculous that the Italian relatives would make that decision 3 months before (don't you generally plan international flights at least 3 months before?!)
And I think we've already annoying FH's mom by drastically cutting her list so accommodate all of my Italian relatives (he's down to 89 A-listers while I have 157).
My other issue is that my parents seem to want to invite more out of state family/friends anticipating that they won't come but hoping for a gift (I think it's the Italian mentality). I just feel this is wrong...what do you think?
FH and I have 246 on our A list so far - we want to send out 220 invites, hoping for no more than 175 at the wedding due to budget and venue size. My concern is that we can't send out invites to other people on our 'B' list (that are friends that we'd really like to come) because we already have so many relatives that we are unsure about on the A list.
I spoke to my dad about the relatives from Italy and he gets annoyed every time I bring it up. I basically want him to get a verbal in advance from the Italian relatives that are planning on coming. I'd like to send my invites out at least 3 months before the wedding so that I'll have time to send to B-listers. He thinks it's ridiculous that the Italian relatives would make that decision 3 months before (don't you generally plan international flights at least 3 months before?!)
And I think we've already annoying FH's mom by drastically cutting her list so accommodate all of my Italian relatives (he's down to 89 A-listers while I have 157).
My other issue is that my parents seem to want to invite more out of state family/friends anticipating that they won't come but hoping for a gift (I think it's the Italian mentality). I just feel this is wrong...what do you think?
