Anybody ever have 2nd thoughts...

RSPan14 Posted: Aug 15, 2014 10:11 PM

Anybody ever have 2nd thoughts...

i wanted to elope from day 1... fh insisted on the wedding. my response was if we are having a wedding, we have to do it right--- thus 35k later...

kfriytsz Posted: Aug 16, 2014 01:20 PM

Re: Anybody ever have 2nd thoughts...

Posted by RSPan14

i wanted to elope from day 1... fh insisted on the wedding. my response was if we are having a wedding, we have to do it right--- thus 35k later...

This is my story too. I still keep telling him it isn't too late to just sign up, lol. Seems like it's not an option.

RSPan14 Posted: Aug 16, 2014 02:50 PM

Re: Anybody ever have 2nd thoughts...

Posted by kfriytsz

Posted by RSPan14

i wanted to elope from day 1... fh insisted on the wedding. my response was if we are having a wedding, we have to do it right--- thus 35k later...

This is my story too. I still keep telling him it isn't too late to just sign up, lol. Seems like it's not an option.

I said let's elope and then have the reception in January so I can at least save the $400 a month I'm schlepping out for obamacare. He won't do that either because he doesn't want two anniversaries.

StarIzInkd Posted: Aug 16, 2014 06:38 PM

Anybody ever have 2nd thoughts...

Seeing as though after all this $$ we are spending for a huge party and only HALF of my guest list is coming.. YES! I feel like I could have rented a back room of a restaurant at this point :(

BuT I always dreamed of the big wedding. I'd never let it go if we didn't have a real party.

gonnabefrank Posted: Aug 16, 2014 06:43 PM

Anybody ever have 2nd thoughts...

Yep, especially because I did the big wedding for my first marriage and even before we got divorced, I couldn't believe we spent so much money for a 5+ hour party. Now that this is my second, I'd LOVE to elope-my FH really wants a wedding so I'm lucky he's doing the majority of the planning ;)

Kris724 Posted: Aug 16, 2014 06:45 PM

Anybody ever have 2nd thoughts...

Glad it's not just me that feels this way!
Just need to stay positive that it will be a beautiful & memorable day..

NYCbride1 Posted: Aug 17, 2014 11:32 PM

Anybody ever have 2nd thoughts...

ALL THE TIME!!! The stress can really get to me and I can't understand why things are so expensive. It used to drive me crazy when people would say 'Just remember, it's a one-day party...' but now I understand where they're coming from. It really is for one day. We can all do without our first choice flowers. LOL

Meglbu Posted: Aug 18, 2014 07:35 AM

Re: Anybody ever have 2nd thoughts...

ALL THE TIME! LOL! I keep saying let's just go to town hall and save the money for something for our family, but he doesn't want to! Haha, I know I would regret it in the long run, but deep down I still think we are crazy for spending SO much on a one day party!!

Rorelai Posted: Aug 18, 2014 10:45 AM

Anybody ever have 2nd thoughts...

We just had our engagement party this weekend and my dad (my parents are paying for the wedding) told us he'd rather give us the cost of the wedding (i'm working on a $30-35k budget) to use as we want because he thinks its silly to spend so much money for just a party. I feel insane not agreeing with him -- we don't want a house yet, but THAT kind of money would make a great long vacation and pay off all of our debts/loans. But... I know I'd regret not having the wedding I want...