Re: Question fo the day 10/22
Quite honestly, no. He's never come to my defense. Right before Christmas of last year - she was ****ed because I had a falling out with SIL during the summer and I wouldn't agree to 'leave' my house on Christmas so that she could 'entertain' HER family in my home! Why? Because BIL/SIL would not come over if I was there (too freaking bad, it's my house!). So the three of us had a 'discussion' in my kitchen over that and other issues I was holding back on for quite some time. Things got very heated and finally I told her exactly what I thought of her (she got upset because I told her I thought she had intentionally been malicious the prior Christmas when she 'gave' me an ornament for our tree, one that his former girlfriend had given him that was personalized 'To Bob, With love always, Laurie'). She stormed out in her typical dramatic fashion with tears a' flowing. He put his ring on the counter and follwed her out. That was it, I was done. I think we both stayed clear of each other for several weeks. I'm not really sure what the turning point was, maybe when I started packing my stuff and he really knew it was over. He changed, somewhat and started to become more objective of the situation (especially since his mother had lied right to his face that night after they left). Whatever the case, we're still married. The situation between us improved greatly as long as they were out of the picture. As long as I didn't see them, there was NO problems between us. They couldn't butcher/twist my words around, nor did I have to deal with their constant abuse. Somehow they started worming their way back into my life (showing up at the house unexpectedly, etc.) and now I'm forced back into the situation. For so long, I felt calm and at peace. Now the resentment is starting in again and I hate how I feel due to their influence. I feel bitter, angry and defensive. I feel it towards my husband too because he enables them to treat me this way/feel this way and he does nothing. He's no better than them if that's the case (yet they abuse him on some level too). I don't know how I'm going to deal with the holidays, considering he is BEGGING me to have them at the house. Anyone have any fail-proof poison recipes on hand?
