Post Wedding Depression

Moonmist09 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 11:42 AM

Post Wedding Depression

So, I'm not depressed by any means, but I hear about this alot.
Brides who have been planning their weddings for so long and they are left with nothing to do.
(not like we all don't have enough to do anyway without the added stress of planning a major event )
But, sometimes, I will catch myself thinking - especially now that the HM is over and we've both gone back to work, just how fast it all went and that now its all over...
Just like, what now?

anyone else on this boat with me?

WeezyGirl2354 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 11:44 AM

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I was - then the HM came and went and now I'm in the a good place.

However, I do find myself reading the 'for sale' posts just b/c i still like to look at ideas.

I miss the day - I miss my dress but I've reached a good place and I'm happy to be rid of a lot of it and just living the married life.

2010BTB Posted: Jul 20, 2011 11:44 AM

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Yup - I wish I could go back and do it all over again. DH looks at me like I have 3 heads when I say I'd go through all the stress of planning again if we had the money to do it.

I've just tried to focus on the next steps...getting a firm grasp of our finances to start house searching, cleaning up things around our apartment so that I'm organized (not winning on this battle) and just other stuff. I like to be busy but no overwhelmed.

evita2781 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 11:45 AM

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right here!! i was so bummed during the beginning of our HM b/c i couldn't believe the wedding was over! but now i'm slowly getting over it b/c my new project is beautifying the apartment that we just moved into. but i still always wish i could do it again

adelz Posted: Jul 20, 2011 11:47 AM

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I got over it so quickly, I just liked that it was all done and that now we could save our money for vacations, our next home, etc., instead of wedding things. Don't get me wrong - we LOVED our wedding day and our honeymoon, it still all feels like a dream that never happened, but I'm in no way depressed that it's over, more just excited that we're married, it's real (still doesn't feel that way hah!), and hoping to have some babiessssss!

Byrne2Be Posted: Jul 20, 2011 11:48 AM

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I felt it for a couple of weeks....especially RIGHT after we returned from Maui. From personal experience, I can say it fades pretty fast!

mybabylovesmoi Posted: Jul 20, 2011 11:51 AM

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I don't really wish to plan my own wedding again but I am still wedding obsessed! I still look at wedding websites, shows, and dresses I still can't believe it's over though

daniedee81 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 11:59 AM

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I'm sad too!!!!!!!! I cannot believe it is all over!!! Wish I could do it again! Planning our wedding kept me busy at work when I had nothing to do!! LOL

ColliMac23 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 12:00 PM

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I want to do it over again I LOVED EVERYTHING I loved it so much I applied to places to be a Wedding Planner! LOL I was crying two days before the Wedding. I am alright now but I miss it!

Moonmist09 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 12:03 PM

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I don't think i would plan the whole thing over again because i wouldn't change a thing (except change photographers or have hired an extra one, but that's a different story) but i would LOVE to relive the whole day and feel the magic again.

ColliMac23 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 12:07 PM

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I wouldn't change anything either

mariedsgn Posted: Jul 20, 2011 12:48 PM

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I'm not sure if that feeling will go away!
I just said last night to my DH that I can't believe that we will be married 1 year this weekend and that I miss our wedding so much!!!!

I say this to everyone, especially the people that asked 'are you happy it's over'

I would love to relive those 3 weeks of my life over again. The week before our wedding was such an exciting time, we were on a wedding high! Of course the Wedding day and our honeymoon

Also - We LOVEDDDDD planning our wedding and doing all of our DYIs - it was just such a happy time.

kshea23 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 12:51 PM

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Posted by mariedsgn
The week before our wedding was such an exciting time, we were on a wedding high! Of course the Wedding day and our honeymoon

this is what I miss. The days leading up to it, and the honeymoon.

one thing I definitely do not miss is practically draining our savings account to pay vendors

Linzee636 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 01:10 PM

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I don't miss the planning and all the drama that goes along with it.

But I do miss the week leading up to and the day of the wedding! It was so special - I wish I could bottle it up.

I also miss being a 'bride' - you're only engaged and have a 'fiance' for so long before you're the wife lol (which i still LOVE). So reliving that feeling of right before you begin your married life together would be amazing.

DH teases me becasue I'm still all about weddings - love hearing about people's engagement stories, dresses, ideas and such.

JuneBride14 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 02:14 PM

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i am totally sad it is over... i want another wedding because i feel like the wedding day itself went by too quickly and i cant remember most of it- it doesnt help that i still ive 2.5 hours away from my husband.. i am hoping it fades when i move home next month

FutureMrsPanuch Posted: Jul 20, 2011 02:21 PM

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im definatly right there with you. As soon as the day was over i wished we could do it all over again... not the planning.. or the saving of the money for one day, but the feeling we had that day.

Im defiantly thrilled that we are finally husband and wife, and i dont miss the stress and drama that went with the planning but it truly was the happiest day of my life and i would have no problem reliving it everyonce in a while

Danielle41209 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 06:37 PM

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I'm not depressed but definitely want to do it all over again!! I have so many things that I'd do differently during the last week (i.e. calling the limos to confirm the time, getting ALL the pics I wanted (now I have to beg Duet to let me do them over..), etc.)

Yes, I just got married , but I wanna do it again!!!!!!!!!!!

Annnndddd, I don't leave for my HM until next week so it makes it even worse!!

Chanwich Posted: Jul 20, 2011 07:27 PM

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Posted by adelz

I got over it so quickly, I just liked that it was all done and that now we could save our money for vacations, our next home, etc., instead of wedding things. Don't get me wrong - we LOVED our wedding day and our honeymoon, it still all feels like a dream that never happened, but I'm in no way depressed that it's over, more just excited that we're married, it's real (still doesn't feel that way hah!), and hoping to have some babiessssss!

YES, this exactly (except the babies )

mtk1605 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 08:23 PM

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Well I miss it! But being I planned an entire surprise wedding in 10 weeks girls have been askin for my help so it's fun.... :) I have always wanted to be in the wedding business. Maybe one day....lol

kshea23 Posted: Jul 20, 2011 08:59 PM

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Posted by mtk1605

Well I miss it! But being I planned an entire surprise wedding in 10 weeks girls have been askin for my help so it's fun.... :) I have always wanted to be in the wedding business. Maybe one day....lol

We have to get on that DOC business we were talking about at maria's wedding!!